Books have always come into my life in strange ways, giving me answers I deeply seek.
I still remember there was a rare book, which I just found in an exhibition and no one knew who it belonged to. I waited for two days, finally took it home and the book changed me.
This book, “I Never Promised You a Rose Garden” gave me answers to some of my existential anxiety that came in with the thought of becoming a therapist. Over the years I have learnt that when a client walks into the room, you never know the way forward.
As a therapist I begin with faith and most clients beautifully create their own rose garden, equally accepting the thorns that come with it.
Therapy is constantly a story of human will and strength. Therapy has taught me to not just trust myself , but believing that the client has the power to find the strength within. I have learnt that happiness is all about looking for small miracles and developing a sense of gratitude.
As a psychologist and a woman, I have learnt to practise Gratitude.Gratitude is a highly underestimated virtue. We go through the rigmarole of life without acknowledging or thanking life for the various gifts that it showers on us. We accept them as pure coincidences or just a matter of good luck.
I was reintroduced to the concept of gratitude when I was reading a book on Positive Psychology. In the book they talk about “Naikan” a Japanese technique of reflection. The technique can be used on a daily basis. The word Naikan means inside looking or introspection.It is primarily based on 3 questions:
What have I received from…
What have I given to…
What troubles and difficulties have I caused to…
The purpose is to use these questions to help one bring focus to how one has contributed and how one’s life has been enriched by the existing relationships and interactions that one may engage in on a daily basis or over an extended period of time.
Try using the technique and see how it impacts you. So as a psychologist I maintain a Gratitude Journal.
Sometimes happiness is our own choice. There are miracles all around, what matters is how we define them.
Sonali Gupta is a practising clinical psychologist with 10 years of experience. She conducts workshops for increasing the wellbeing of parents and children.She can be reached at email@example.com